Strong Fathers Make Strong Families

Times spent with Dad can create memories that children will cherish well into adulthood. Experts say studies have also shown that fathers play an important role in providing strong foundations for a healthy future. "Kids tend to perform better when fathers interact with them on a regular basis," says Dr. Obie Clayton, professor of sociology at Morehouse College and editor of Black Fathers in Contemporary American Society: Strengths, Weaknesses and Strategies for Change. "Children who regularly interact with their fathers have fewer disciplinary problems in school and they're less likely to use drugs and alcohol."

The amount of time and energy a father spends with his children impacts them regardless of the family structure. Even in cases where the father does not live in the home, Dr. Clayton says, active father involvement plays an important role, especially in the lives of daughters. "The effect that fathers have on daughters is extremely strong, even more so than for boys," he says. "When fathers interact with their daughters, those girls have higher self-esteem and go on to succeed in college. They learn through that father how men should treat them."

Building strong bonds with your child should start at an early age. Dr. Clayton notes that by the time a child is 12 or 13, their personality is basically intact. Here are some ways fathers can remain a strong, positive force in their child's life.

SHARE A SPECIAL ACTIVITY

Kids love routines and they'll long remember those special occasions that they shared with Dad. Give Mom a break and establish a regular activity that the kids can do just with Dad. Whether you choose a weekly visit to the library, a weekend bike ride or a trip to the park, be sure to include a sandwich and the great taste of LAY'S[R] potato chips to make your time together extra special.

COMMUNICATE DAILY

According to the National Fatherhood initiative, by the time the typical American child is six years old, he or she will have spent more time watching television than talking with their father over their entire lifetime! Dr. Clayton recommends fathers spend at least 15 to 20 minutes a day talking with their children about their school day, their friends or anything else the kids want to discuss.

VISIT THE SCHOOL

Children are more likely to take an interest in their school work when they know their parents are interested as well. Don't leave parent-teacher conferences, science fairs and school plays to Mom. Fathers should make a point of meeting teachers and knowing what each child is studying in school.

GET INVOLVED

One of the most fun ways fathers can bond with their children is to volunteer as a coach for their favorite sports activity. Be it baseball, soccer, football or basketball, you'll get to spend time with your child and his or her friends, provide inspiration and encouragement as they progress, and maybe even get a little exercise yourself! Be sure to take along the snacks they love to make the game even better.

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